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Why is this happening to me?

Friday, 18 March, 2016 - 9:58 am

We throw our arms up in abandonment and wonder, "Why is this happening to me?" We're angry, we're vulnerable, we're in pain, and we just ask, "Why, G-d? Why me?"

Unfortunately, challenge and crisis is nothing new to our People. As Fiddler's Tevye so eloquently stated in his soliloquy: "We are Your chosen people. But, once in a while, can't You choose someone else?"

Millennia of suffering and persecution have also taught us a thing or two about the reason for this suffering when we analyze the recurring theme of the cause of our challenges.

Having just brought the mighty Egyptian empire to her knees in ten devastating plagues, the Jews were attacked by Amalek, our nemesis that threatens to destroy our nation. As we read the episode in the Torah this week,  the place of the war is identified as Refiddim. Whenever a place is mentioned in Torah, it's not for historical purposes but for contextual insight. The word "Refiddim" means "spiritual weakness." As a result of their neglecting to fulfill their spiritual obligations, their enemy attacked, thus forcing them to turn their attention to G-d for salvation.

The same pattern repeats itself when we celebrate the holiday of Purim next week. The Talmud tells us that the reason we faced the threat of national annihilation (G-d forbid) at the hands of the Persians 2,200 years ago was because the Jews believed that they needed only to have political connections in order to ensure their survival and forgot the need to have divine protection as well.

It was only when the Jews fasted in repentance and reclaimed their connection with G-d that the nemesis disappeared. Once the cause is no more, the effect simply dissipates.

Each of us is an only child of G-d. Our father in heaven loves us like you love your children, and He yearns for a meaningful relationship with us, If, after years of trying to get our attention through bounty and success nothing helps, He sometimes is left with no choice but to get our attention in other ways. If our financial success only caused us to pat ourselves on the back and congratulate our own brilliance, G-d feels neglected and ignored.

Perhaps we have a connection with G-d, but the relationship is stale and dated. Like a loving parent, G-d might desire to deepen that relationship.

Think of your relationship with your kids today. Is it how you'd like it to be? If you had a choice, would you do anything to make them need to remember you?

Let's be smart about this. Instead of kvetching about the problems and protesting the ethics of this, let's simply learn the lesson that G-d has been trying to teach us for around 3000 years: "I love you and I really want to have a deeper relationship with you." (And yes, the Holocaust is a completely unique tragedy that has nothing to do with this pattern.)

​Could we too, in our personal lives, draw a precedent from our nation’s history and solve our own problems and crises by addressing the root of the problem and mending our relationship with the Almighty? Let me know.

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