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How to be a wandering Jew

Jews have always been wandering. The very birth of our people began with G-d's instruction to our patriarch Abraham to "leave from your land, your place of birth and your father's home to the land that I will show you." 

But why couldn't G-d tell him where they were going?

In this week's Torah portion, we read of the forty two encampments on their journey from Egypt to Israel.

But even a child can see, by taking a quick glance at the world map, that the distance from Egypt to Israel is really quite miniscule. In fact, they border on each other.

So, why on earth did it take forty years for the Jewish people to reach their destination? An entire generation died and were buried in the desert, while a brand new one entered the the promised land. And, why did the Torah deem it so necessary to list each one of their stops on the way there?    

Were the Jews who perished in the desert, buried and left behind, a lost and forgotten 'tribe'? Moses, the greatest leader that ever lived, who dreamed and desired nothing more than to enter the land of Israel with his flock, yet was afforded only a distant sighting, was his dedication wasted?   

G-d forbid.

Perhaps, the destination was the journey itself. 

G-d didn't need to tell Abraham to where they were headed. So long as he was following G-d's directive, dong it with love and devotion, along with his wife Sarah, he was headed in the right direction. To Abraham, it wasn't about where he was going, rather that G-d assigned him to go.

The Jews left Egypt as slaves, yet they entered the land of Israel as the chosen people, a kingdom of priests. Such a metamorphosis could only have taken place with proper preparation. A cleansing of sorts. The trek through the desert was G-d's 'five step plan' or rather a 'plan of forty two steps', spanning forty years, formulating and qualifying them for this awesome task and responsibility. 

The road of life can sometimes feel like an endless series of bumps and turns, on occasion seeming like the end of the tunnel has no light at all. Or more like a treadmill, that while your legs are doing the walk, the road beneath is and endless cycle going round and round leading to nowhere.

This may truly be the case, if you're one of those so busy making a living that you forget to live.  

In our quest for making another dollar, cutting another deal, we may get so focused on where we want to be not realizing that we have actually arrived; that our children don't stay young forever, that our good health is not to be taken for granted. 

Luckily, as Jews we have the world's most intricate GPS system, detailing how to navigate each fork in the road.

The Torah instructs us to spend quality, family time at the appropriate times and to focus on G-d alone at others. It tells when to be joyous and when to be sad, when to work and when to rest.

Moses will make it into the land of Israel, as well as the Jews who remained in the desert.

We know and believe that Moshiach is around the bend.

Until then, we wander with a cause, not blindly but knowing exactly to where we are going. Understanding that what G-d wants is for us to follow the GPS and enjoy the ride. 

Can Parents be too protective?

The missing boy in Boro Park this week has made headlines everywhere. What started out as a local search for an eight year old child who left his mother worried after failing to meet her at their preplanned meeting place, grew into a massive manhunt with volunteers coming from all over in hopes to give the story a happy ending.

We held our breath for about 36 hours clinging to any information we got out hands on. We poured over every detail, fantasizing that we could crack the case even though the NYPD and scores of other professionals had not yet done so.

Answers came, but not the ones we wanted or prayed for.

After losing his way and looking for directions, it was a brutal murder, too gruesome for a mother to describe.

But before grief had its chance to set in, the accusations began. How can she, even in the safest neighborhood, let her child walk alone? We must watch our children. Guard them. Protect them from the evil around us.

This is true.

But the question begs; can parents be too protective?

I remember seeing a cartoon years ago of a child coming down the slide wearing a helmet, elbow pads, knee pads and a padded vest straight into the waiting arms of his mom and dad on either side.

My mother has often said ‘we give our children wings, we have to let them fly’. Perhaps this is the toughest part of parenting.

It can be tough letting go. Allowing children to make their own decisions and learn from their mistakes.

Of course, it must be age appropriate. For a one year old it’s about trying yet again to hold their own bottle or taking their first steps. For a three year old it’s dressing themselves and for a ten year old it’s making that really scary phone call himself asking a store manager for a particular product.

You say, ‘you cannot be too careful’? I think you can. True protection from the evils in this world is real preparedness for what awaits.

It’s healthy to get a bruise, trip on a few stairs and eat some dirt. You’ll be more careful on your bike next time, more watchful of the stairs and won’t touch the dirt again after the first taste.

We also must teach our children, unfortunately, that it is not safe to trust everyone.

Especially strangers.  

At the same time, as every parent knows, some things are just beyond our control.

It is for this reason I believe it to be impossible for a parent to be atheist.

While we train our children, from the moment of their departure of the womb that danger looms everywhere, from the china closet, to almost everything in the kitchen and the road just a few steps away from the front door, every parent will acknowledge at one time or another that there was an angel, or two, or three looking out for their child.

A very real and if not crucial part to being a parent is utmost trust and belief in G-d.

We must do our part in protecting our children and preparing them for the unknown. At the same time, we must also realize that there is a point at which we must let go and concede that ultimately, it’s in G-d’s hands, even in head to toe protective gear, G-d has His plan.

When the pain subsides and this terrible news becomes the day to day reality the parents of Leiby Kletzky live with, there will undoubtedly be the regrets, the’ what ifs’ and the ‘it didn’t have to happens’, but they will also be sure that they did the best they could as parents of this holy soul and G-d did His, in the most mysterious of ways.  

The Casey Anthony Verdict - Uniquely American.

Most of the country has been taken by the trial played out in front of us and broadcast on news outlets everywhere piece by piece. But nothing has stirred as much emotion as today's not guilty verdict.

To me, it epitomizes what America stands for and what makes it so great.

Do I think that Casey Anthony killed her daughter? Probably. Can I say so with certainty beyond reasonable doubt? Absolutely not.

I find it no coincidence this big news took place on the third of Tammuz, the Lubavitcher Rebbe, Rabbi Menachem Schneerson's seventeenth yartzeit (anniversary of passing).

What is a Rebbe? What sets him apart from an ordinary Rabbi?  

Most apparently of course, his stunning knowledge of Torah and keen understanding of all subjects. The greatest military generals, the best medical specialists, political diplomats and Torah scholars alike left audiences with the Rebbe feeling like they had just conversed with a master in their particular field.

There are also the countless stories of how the Rebbe was able to foresee the future. Like during the difficult days of the six day war when he was able to dauntlessly, with absolute certainty, assure Jews in Israel and around the world that there would be great victory and that there was nothing to fear.  

But more than his vision of Torah, of engineering or his vision of the future, perhaps the greatest insight of the Rebbe was his vision of souls.

He undoubtedly heard the pain, the joy or fear, in the man, woman or child standing before him seeking his counsel. He addressed each medical question with acute medical proficiency and each confused college student with a response that he could relate to. But what he really recognized was the soul.

To the deathly ill woman he prescribed lighting shabbos candles, while the man struggling to make a living was instructed to lay teffilin, another still, to check his mezuzahs. Incredibly, the spiritual ordinance remedied the physical ailment.  

The Rebbe was a conduit between humanity and G-d.  

It is written that one of the great functions of Moshiach is that he will have the unique ability to 'sniff and do justice'. That just with the 'sniff of his nose' he will know the guilty from the innocent by the 'scent' of their soul.

Although we still await the arrival of Moshiach, the Rebbe gave his disciples and all those who had the privilege of his company, if only for a few moments, an exclusive glimpse into what those days will be like. 

The constitution of this great country we have been afforded to live in, was not just based on basic principles of freedom and independence, but a faith in G-d, uniquely American.

I'm no soul reader, without real hard evidence there is no way I can be sure of anything, one way or another.

Was justice served for little Caylee? Probably not.

That has to be taken up with G-d. 

And that is what makes America the giant it is. It recognizes that we are no G-d and that there is a higher force. That although every finger points in the same direction, unless ascertained beyond any shadow of doubt, the suspected is determined innocent until proven guilty.

It honors that it takes much more than ordinary eyes to convict without proper proof.

It takes G-d  to make conclusions.

It takes a Rebbe to see a soul.

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