As a rabbi, I'm often approaced by people suffering from boring relationships, simply because they are 'falling out of love'. 'Nothing's wrong, Rabbi!, we just don't feel the magic the same way that we used to feel it.'
A closer look at the Passover story, provides us with the key to solving this malady.
You see, when our ancestors were slaves in Egypt, there was really very little that was special about them. They were steeped in idolatry just as much as the culture in which they lived.
Yet, inexplicably G-d loved them.
He chose them to be His Chosen People. Not because of what they had done but for no good reason. When the Egyptian oppressors were drowning in the Red Sea, the angels complained 'Why are the Jews any better than the Egyptians?!'
This is true love- loving another exactly as they are and not for what they do.
So many people are under the impression that Love is how the other person makes me feel. If I don;t feel special anymore being with my partner, then it might be time to go our seperate ways.
Love in hebrew is Ahava. The root of the word is Hav, which means'give'. According to the Kabbalah, Love is not about taking, but about giving. It is not about how others make you feel, nbut about how you make others feel.
So if you are feeling 'out of love', stop pointing fingers and blaming others and try to give more love. Do a random act of kindness to the person you love. Buy her flowers or cook his favorite dinner. Simply Give.
The Kaballah assures us that our hearts follow our deeds- once you repeat acts of kindness to another, your heart will follow through with the appropriate emotion and you will begin to feelt hat same old magical feeling all over again.
The power to love is in your hands!